What Nobody Tells You about Personal Growth

Growing Pains - Why Personal Growth is so hard

I think we can all agree with that personal growth is hard.

It requires a great deal of self-responsibility and accountability. Not only that, but you have to be consistent in your new attitudes and behavior to achieve your goals.

In this post, I’m going to explain why it’s hard and share my personal growth experience with you thus far.

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Why is Personal Growth so hard?

Starting and pushing through your personal growth journey is hard because it requires a lot of sacrifices.

The biggest sacrifices include all the attitudes, behaviors, and relationships that hold you back by either being toxic or keeping you stagnant.

You may not even be aware of ways that even YOU could be holding yourself back.

The important thing is that you decided to get started.



Now let’s take a deeper look into these sacrifices and how they tie into your Personal Growth



Many people have attitudes that hold them back. Let’s look at the following mini case studies to examine this problem:

  • Someone wants to accomplish something, but instead of being optimistic about it and pushing through, they convince themselves that it’s too big of a task to even bother. Therefore, nothing gets done, and they don’t progress. Bonus – they blame other people for never getting anywhere in life or not having the things they want.
  • Someone has a minor misunderstanding with a friend, family member (etc.) and rather than talking about the issue with the person in a mature manner, they resort to petty behavior. This includes ignoring the situation, blowing things out of proportion, or any way that doesn’t focus on solving the problem at hand.
  • Someone is being mistreated by a loved one or coworker but instead of confronting the issue and voicing their opinion, they either resort to petty behavior, or they internalize it. Granted, this is a difficult situation to be in, but the last thing you should do is internalize someone else’s behavior and play the victim.


It’s not what happens to you; it’s how you react to it.

You have the power to be the bigger person and persevere despite the difficulties you are facing. Don’t live your life reacting to things that happen to you.

If either one of these scenarios applies to you, you may want to reflect and think of better ways you can approach your problems. My advice is to ask yourself the following:

    1. Will this matter 5 years or even 5 days from now?
    2. Is my relationship more important than this problem? Is it a recurring problem or just a minor inconvenience?
    3. Am I doing more damage to myself by reacting this way? What are the consequences of my actions?
    4. Am I resolving the problem with my actions?



Your attitude affects your behavior.

If you have negative attitudes, you will have negative behaviors that will ultimately harm your wellbeing and push you further away from your goals. Therefore, you need to make sure that you have your attitude in check first.


Here are some examples of how your attitudes can hold you back. This is what happens when you say you want something but your actions say the opposite:

  • You say you want to be happy; you want to be less stressed and more peaceful. However, you’re keeping toxic people in your life that guarantee the opposite. Believe me, I of all people know how hard it is to let go of someone you care about, but sometimes you have to realize that that person may not care about you as much. Gradually remove yourself from toxic relationships. When you do, you won’t believe how much more peaceful your life will be. Trust me.
  • You say you want better relationships, but you don’t hold people to high standards. (BTW: NEVER lower your standards to accommodate others. Make them rise to meet you)
  • You say you want success, but you haven’t defined what success means to you… so you have no idea how to accomplish it. You set big goals for yourself, but you don’t make them measurable so you can track your progress. You don’t set SMART goals.


When you start your personal growth journey, you have to commit to the person you want to be. You have to define what success means to you, and you have to develop the right attitude and behaviors to achieve it.

It’s not easy to change your attitudes and behaviors, so this makes it hard. But nothing good comes easy. Your future self is counting on you to be consistent. Don’t let yourself down.



I’ve probably talked about the effects of our relationships a million times on my blog because of how important it is.

Toxic relationships not only make us unhappy; they corrupt our attitudes and dispositions in ways that undermine healthier relationships and prevent us from realizing how much better things can be.

– Michael Josephson

I’d highly recommend you check out my other posts on how relationships affect your personal growth for more in-depth content.



The Role of Pain in Personal Growth

Pain is meant to teach you a lesson; it is meant to show you your strength and help you grow.

The pain you experience from making these changes in your life is necessary. It means that you’re progressing. It’s not going to be easy to change.

Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.


In Summary:

Personal growth is hard because it requires you to make a major shift in your life around your attitudes, behaviors, relationships, and values.

You can’t do the same thing over and over and expect different results. That is insanity.

You can’t expect to achieve your goals and become the best version of yourself by holding onto toxic attitudes and relationships that hold you back.

It requires sacrifice and discipline. And it doesn’t happen overnight.

THE COST OF AMBITION - Why Personal Growth is Hard


Things to Be Mindful of for Your Personal Growth Journey

It Takes Time; Be Patient: As I said before, it’s not going to happen overnight. There are too many moving parts in play to see results right away. Your progress also depends on how determined you are. You will see faster results if you remain focus and consistent.

It Requires an Investment: You have to invest your time and energy into different things to ensure your success. For example, if you want to learn a new skill or need help improving a specific area of your life, you may want to invest in a book or a coach to help you.


Remember: your journey is unique to you. It doesn’t matter if you struggle somewhere along the way; all that matters is that you get back up and be persistent.


Need some more help getting started?

If there is one book I will always recommend reading to get started on your personal growth journey it’s this one:

Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny! by Tony Robbins

The title is pretty self-explanatory. Tony does an excellent job of making us aware of how we hold ourselves back with our limiting beliefs and what we can do to change that.




Want more books to start your Personal Growth Journey?


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Until next time loves,

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Sensi is the founder of The Metamorphosis, a lifestyle blog about the journey of college to adulting. Here you can find the tips for college, self-improvement, adulting, and more. Other than blogging, she loves spending time with her twin sisters, she loves traveling, and eating!

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